What is marriage?
When asked why most people get married they first thing they say is, "we fell in love" but what exactly do they mean when they say love? Often times the first thing we think of is romantic love, but marriage isn't just about "romantic love". We can define romantic love as physical attraction and infatuation. Some people seem to think that if you are not "obsessed" with someone then you must not really like them. In reality, being obsessed is not actually a good thing and can cause some problems in a relationship. True love, however, involves people that are not dependent on one another but choose to be together because they want to. And it is though this intentional choice that they can become one together and grow as a couple because they desire to, not because their emotions and hormones force them to. So what is there besides romantic love that keeps people together? Understanding who that person is BEFORE you marry them, sharing the same morals and standards, making and keeping goals together as a couple, and of course there has to be "deeper" love, aka true love. Hollywood has distorted what people perceive as real love in today's world. people think that if you aren't living together or doing immoral things you cannot be in love with that person. The definition for true love would be an unconditional state of loving your partner, where you are devoted to cherish, care, respect, trust and serve them. A marriage based solely on romantic love will dwindle and fall while a marriage that combines both romantic and true love can, with hard work, can blossom into something beautiful.
Now that we know that marriage should be made up of a couple committed to true love not just romantic love, it is important to understand some myths associated with marriage. 1st- people believe that a happy marriage is one that is free from argument or conflict. this is false. being in a relationship you are bound to disagree on several things over the course of your life together, but positive and effective communication can allow you to get through those conflicts and actually draw you closer to your partner. 2nd- opposites attract. this brings me back to the "romantic love" just because you are infatuated with a person does NOT mean that you will have a lasting marriage. it is important to make sure that the person you marry carries similar values and interests as you. if not, what seems charming and new may become a very large irritant in the future.
When asked why most people get married they first thing they say is, "we fell in love" but what exactly do they mean when they say love? Often times the first thing we think of is romantic love, but marriage isn't just about "romantic love". We can define romantic love as physical attraction and infatuation. Some people seem to think that if you are not "obsessed" with someone then you must not really like them. In reality, being obsessed is not actually a good thing and can cause some problems in a relationship. True love, however, involves people that are not dependent on one another but choose to be together because they want to. And it is though this intentional choice that they can become one together and grow as a couple because they desire to, not because their emotions and hormones force them to. So what is there besides romantic love that keeps people together? Understanding who that person is BEFORE you marry them, sharing the same morals and standards, making and keeping goals together as a couple, and of course there has to be "deeper" love, aka true love. Hollywood has distorted what people perceive as real love in today's world. people think that if you aren't living together or doing immoral things you cannot be in love with that person. The definition for true love would be an unconditional state of loving your partner, where you are devoted to cherish, care, respect, trust and serve them. A marriage based solely on romantic love will dwindle and fall while a marriage that combines both romantic and true love can, with hard work, can blossom into something beautiful.
Now that we know that marriage should be made up of a couple committed to true love not just romantic love, it is important to understand some myths associated with marriage. 1st- people believe that a happy marriage is one that is free from argument or conflict. this is false. being in a relationship you are bound to disagree on several things over the course of your life together, but positive and effective communication can allow you to get through those conflicts and actually draw you closer to your partner. 2nd- opposites attract. this brings me back to the "romantic love" just because you are infatuated with a person does NOT mean that you will have a lasting marriage. it is important to make sure that the person you marry carries similar values and interests as you. if not, what seems charming and new may become a very large irritant in the future.
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