6/13/12
Taking responsibilities for how we act in stressful times---We all have stress in our lives, some of those stress causing factors are things we can control and others we can't. Yet, no matter what the situation or circumstance there is always one thing we can control, our attitude and behavior. If we blame our actions and thoughts on others or things that are happening then we are denying responsibility for our actions and not understanding that we all have our own agency to behave how we will and we must accept the responsibilities for those actions which may be the difference between being happy and not.
Part of being able to control our own emotions means not allowing others to influence our moods. It is often the case that people handle different situations in different ways. Some people laugh when they're stressed cause they don't know how to act, others get really angry as a way to mask what they're really feeling, while others internalize everything and battle out their frustrations in their minds while "acting happy" all along so that people don't catch on to their frustrations. Knowing this is helpful because it means that there is often an underlying reason behind people's actions. And if we are wise we will give people the benefit of the doubt for what may be perceived as rude behavior....maybe they're having a bad day, I wonder if they are feeling okay today?, They must be feeling stressed. If we adopt these thoughts instead of: they're rude, gosh they're angry today, Why are they treating me this way? By doing this we can separate ourselves from others emotions and we don't have to think of that person's emotions as linked to ours, instead we can help them.
Taking responsibilities for how we act in stressful times---We all have stress in our lives, some of those stress causing factors are things we can control and others we can't. Yet, no matter what the situation or circumstance there is always one thing we can control, our attitude and behavior. If we blame our actions and thoughts on others or things that are happening then we are denying responsibility for our actions and not understanding that we all have our own agency to behave how we will and we must accept the responsibilities for those actions which may be the difference between being happy and not.
Part of being able to control our own emotions means not allowing others to influence our moods. It is often the case that people handle different situations in different ways. Some people laugh when they're stressed cause they don't know how to act, others get really angry as a way to mask what they're really feeling, while others internalize everything and battle out their frustrations in their minds while "acting happy" all along so that people don't catch on to their frustrations. Knowing this is helpful because it means that there is often an underlying reason behind people's actions. And if we are wise we will give people the benefit of the doubt for what may be perceived as rude behavior....maybe they're having a bad day, I wonder if they are feeling okay today?, They must be feeling stressed. If we adopt these thoughts instead of: they're rude, gosh they're angry today, Why are they treating me this way? By doing this we can separate ourselves from others emotions and we don't have to think of that person's emotions as linked to ours, instead we can help them.
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